I have dated more in the last month than I probably have all of my 40s. Why now? I think I finally learned how to have a lightness toward relationships. I am not expecting anything from dating except to meet some new men. There is no pressure to figure "it" out in the first few minutes of meeting someone.
And what is "it"? "It" is basically a series of questions like "Is this someone I like?" "Is this someone I want to be around?" "Is this guy going to disappointment me?" "'Is he going to hurt me?" "Is I am going to fall in love with him?" It is a lot for the first few minutes for anyone person or a guy.
However, I learned how to suspend that part of me and just be here in the moment. It is freeing! And dating is actually fun.